Murphy’s Law

In residency, Murphy’s Law was captured daily – in the diagnosis of a progressed neuroblastoma in a thriving infant with an attentive family; in the discovery of a rare congenital disorder in a baby born to two healthy parents; in the brutal progression of meningitis in a child who should have defeated the disease. Murphy’s Law – ‘that which will go wrong, will go wrong’ is perfectly in line with the definition of irony – a series of events or circumstance that is almost deliberately contrary to what was expected to result. Irony, at its finest, either makes us laugh or cry – and often times perhaps both.

The whole point of my blog is to demonstrate the vast areas of grey present in “expert” opinion. I love to write about controversial subjects and explore the extreme points of view, and then outline a more inclusive opinion on the matter. But, in classic depiction of the irony of Murphy’s Law, I now present a counterpoint to…

Run Like A Girl

Have you seen the new Always ad campaign? If not, I’ve attached the video to this post. As a mother of two young girls and a doctor to many, this marketing ploy made me stop and really think – how do our girls see themselves? What do they believe they are capable of accomplishing? What facets of their personhood do they believe really matter?

We have all witnessed the change in self-esteem that accompanies puberty in kids, both girls and boys. For many girls though, the pressure to look and act a certain way begins to reign paramount to a once strong interest in academics and sports. For the girls who continue to excel in the classroom and on the field, their success in these realms is often tempered by their physical appeal. Do they successfully emulate the images they see around them constantly?

It is a lot to ask of anyone, much less someone who is still trying to figure out their place in the world, to look beautiful, maintain schoo…

Spanking

I have yet to meet a parent that hasn’t experienced the impulse to hit their own child. Perhaps the thought occurs when a 15 month old bites mom and then laughs, an 18 month old slaps his sibling, a 3 year old runs into the street. The impulse of course is normal, but is the act of hitting normal too? And if normal for a great number of parents, is it an effective tool for discipline? Will it harm your child in the long-run?

It is easy to understand the argument that supports an aggressive response by parents to the actions mentioned above – ‘my child will only know that hitting hurts if she experiences it also. My child doesn’t respond to time-outs or is too young to understand loss of privilege as a means of discipline… We only ever hit in an attempt to show the severity of the infraction — running into the street has to be met with a greater punishment – otherwise it is only as bad as everything else we discipline for…’