Exclusivity of Breastfeeding & Pacifier Use

After my son was born, and my previously defined OCD ” tendencies” became a clearly engrained part of my person, I spent a lot of time reading about how to change my thinking– how to not react to fleeting thoughts, how to manage my propensity to ruminate and how to end catastrophic thinking. It is so easy to see only the extremes when you are anxious about something- the black and the white, with very little appreciation for the multitudes of grey.

I have found the discussion of breastfeeding often resonates in extremes as well. Exclusivity of breastfeeding is prized and the occasional supplementation with formula deemed a failure. I have had newborn parents tell me that they may as well wean their baby because they had been giving an occasional bottle of formula anyway; as if the formula depleted the breast milk of its many benefits. In my experience, the pressure of all or nothing is rarely conducive to lasting success.


I absolutely love this quote. “I plan to give you love, nurturing and just enough dysfunction to make you funny.” I love it because it’s real- it captures parenting. No matter how many books we read and expert tactics we employ, we will never be perfect parents. But if we come at it from a place of love, compassion and ample humor, we can meet the daunting task of parenting head on. I want this blog to be a resource for parents– I plan to stay current on pediatric topics in the news, evaluate relevant studies and decipher opposing “expert” viewpoints, and present the information in a way that is palatable to you, as a parent.

First up, this debate on swaddling – one of dr Harvey Karp’s famed “S”s- the other four being swinging, side/back lying, shushing and sucking. Basically, all of Karp’s recommendations mirror life in utero where the blood swooshing through the mothers body crea…